Are we listening and learning?

By: Kimberly Cargill

Yesterday morning (1-9-20), like most mornings, I listened to Albert Mohler’s podcast.  He talked about an article from the Wall Street Journal, written by Julie Jargon, with the headline “Apps Help Strangers Have a Baby Together,” with the subhead “Service aim to match people who want kids, not necessarily romance.”

She writes: “When Jenica Andersen felt the tug for a second child at age 37, the single mom weighed her options, wait until she meets Mr. Right or choose a sperm donor and go it alone, but we are told she found the first alternative lacking in promise, and she found the second lacking in appeal.”  Alternatively, she went with “Subscription-based websites such as PollenTree.com and Modamily that match would-be parents who want to share custody of a child without any romantic expectations.”

When I heard about this, my mind went immediately to the devotion that I had read a couple of days prior, in Genesis 16 with Abram, Sarai and Hagar.  Abram and Sarai were not able to have children.  So Sarai took it into her own hands and told Abram, her husband, to go “be” with Hagar, her servant, and have a child.  I know that may have been the custom of that time but still not what God wanted for the family.  Abram listened to his wife.  Hagar conceived, and then problems came into the household.

God had made a covenant with Abraham stating that he would be the father of many nations.  God had plans for Abraham and Sarah.  After many years, God did bless them with a child of their own, Isaac.  But then we read again of problems in the household between the sons of Hagar and Sarah, and the tension that it brought.  Hagar’s son wanted the love of his father and now it was gone and shown to Isaac.

If only they had waited on God, then this would not have happened.  But sometimes we just feel like we have to take matters into your own hands because we don’t want to wait for the blessing that God has planned for us.

Going back to this new way of having kids, I think they are going to see that doing it this way is going to be problematic.  Jargon states, “It’s a lot like a divorce without the wedding or the arguments.  Given the prominence in today’s society about single parenthood and online dating, this digital approach could be seen as a natural progression.”

They say that this is the natural progression; but it isn’t the biblical worldview.  She makes it sound like this is easy and that you can co-parent without having problems.  If you ask most divorced parents if they have problems co-parenting, most of them will say that they still have arguments and issues. So I don’t see why you would want to put yourself through this. This is not what God had planned for us.

We should learn from the Bible and from the mistakes made by those who come before us.  God has many lessons for us and He is telling us His plan for us.  We just need to listen and obey.

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