If they only would have known, …

By: American Decency Staff

In kicking around the internet today, I stumbled upon a conference that had been held in 2010 by well-known and somewhat-controversial theologian Pastor Doug Wilson entitled, "Calvin, You Sexy Beast: Keeping Calvin Sassy for the Next 500 Years."

I find that title to be hilarious and interesting and I wish I'd known that it took place in 2010 because I would have liked to have listened to it. It also got me thinking. Please, don't take this as a criticism of Wilson – it's merely an observation – but what does it say about our culture when even very conservative pastors like Doug Wilson would choose the word 'sexy' (however tongue-in-cheek it may be) to describe  as respected a man as John Calvin?

I wonder what John Calvin would have thought about being called 'sexy' in his day.

Even I remember when I was a little kid and I first heard the word 'sexy' in a pretty innocuous lingerie commercial (though I'm sure it was steamy for the time) and being shocked that you could even say that on TV. Of course, I was a little sheltered when it came to television, but today everything is sexy.

Google defines sexy as "sexually attractive or exciting." While it's definitely still used that way, the context of the word in modern vocabulary often would make "sexy" a synonym of "awesome."

I've heard phones called sexy, cars called sexy, pizza called sexy, and there's even a dog grooming product called "Sexy Beast." And now, I've heard John Calvin called sexy.

Being sexually attractive/ sexy = being cool.

All of that is to show that our culture is engrossed in sex. It permeates every facet of society. It is the theme behind TV shows, pop music, fashion, and art. When acceptance or admiration is based on physical attraction, society has its priorities wrong.

In our society, sex is not considered a sacred rite of the two-become-one, it is simply a pass time – like watching a movie, but with fewer explosions. In the box through which we catch a glimpse of "normal" life, sex is what you do on the first date so you know whether to pursue a relationship or not. The deciding factor on whether you are considered moral by our culture is how "tolerant" you are of different "sexual identities."

Hear me here. The point of this writing is not to call sex bad. I think too often Christians allow ourselves to be known as having a low view of sex, but it is pretty obvious that it's a system designed by God and thus it is good. Some would even say it's very good. The Christian view of sex is not people should stop doing it, but they should stop doing it wrong. God designed sex to unite two people on 3 levels – physical, spiritual, and emotional. When intimacy is there on all three levels, sex is awesome, but our cultural only focuses only on the physical pleasures and thus they ruin the beauty of the design. It's like using a Van Gogh painting as a table cloth. 

Our schools are not isolated from this cultural influence. Guidance counselors and health teachers (with some exceptions) around the nation teach from a curriculum assuming that every student who hears it is having sex with his/ her fellow students. The "gospel" of sex ed is "safe sex," freeing the participants from that nasty side effect of sex – babies.

But, what if this concept of "safe sex" is a lie? This is where Pam Stenzel comes in. Pam is motivational speaker who speaks to about a half a million high school kids per year by way of school assemblies and youth conferences.

She teaches something very different from the "wear a condom, you'll be fine" crowd. Pam gets to travel the world and tell 500,000 kids every year that everything their culture teaches them about sex is wrong.

Her shocking message is that sex is not the moral equivalent of a handshake.  That swapping bodily fluids with anyone and everyone is not as safe as the Department of Health and Human Services makes it sound.

There are presently 30 sexually transmitted diseases infecting those who are sexually active around the country. Condoms do nothing to protect from the vast majority of them, for some there is no cure, and for some there are no symptoms – but they can still do great damage.

Another often unrecognized bit of information for the guys is that for the birth of every baby, the social security numbers of both parents are required. If the father is not in the picture, the federal government will garnish his wages to support the child until the child's 18th birthday.

Pam said all of this and much more when she came to speak at ADA's offices. She held rapt two crowds in afternoon and evening presentations.

Please, visit the video section on our webpage and watch her presentation for yourself or share it with someone who needs the information.
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ADA has sold Pam Stenzel's very educational resources for years and, some of you may remember, she keynoted our 25th anniversary dinner!

We hope that Pam's warnings about the real dangers of abusing God's beautiful design for sex will continue to be spread around the world.    We plan on being a part of it.

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